Update

We now have 2 potential surrogates. One with whom we are the "preferred client" and the other we are "numero 2" and a conversation later today will determine whether we become number 1.

Surro 1 is the one mentioned in my last post who according to my RE is too thin to start a surrogacy. Apart from the "weight" she is a very personable and easy going young woman and there are no apparent red flags. She is very willing to try and gain weight and has already started seeing a nutritionist to help her along this path. The nutritionist has advised her to first obtain a full workup from her family doctor and suggested some specific tests that would give some insight as to why her thyroid is not functioning properly. Once he has that information he would then be able to properly create a diet that would help her gain weight. We are thrilled that she is taking this positive step and will support her as much as possible.

Surro 2 is mum of 2, married and had a tubal ligation at last pregnancy. She is currently in talks with other IPs based in Europe. She has been very honest in always letting us know about their existence but also wanted to talk to us before she made her final decision. We have a phone call planned for later this evening. Again no red flags but with this surro it feels as though we are bidding on a house that everyone wants ...and the highest bidder always wins. If the decision were left to my husband that would be us but I have no desire to incur huge and preventable debt.

Depending on who you ask our relationship with "nasty agency" has taken a turn for the worst or the better. Got an e-mail saying that because we had registered with another agency that there was a conflict of interest and that they could no longer work with us...BULLSHIT. There is nothing in our agreement that prohibits us from working with another agency especially since under the terms of our agreement they had 6 months to provide us with a surrogate that led to an executed contract and at the end of that our money was to be returned minus an administrative fee. We also believe that the e-mail was her responding to us deciding not to meet with a potential surro that she had sent us. This individual was on antidepressants and was not willing to stop. Was this selfish of us to ask her to? Maybe but though many studies said there was no danger to a pregnancy, an equal number also quoted an increase risk of miscarriages. This information plus the knowledge that her last surro journey had ended in a miscarriage at 13weeks made us rather uncomfortable.

To any Canadians who may be following my blog be very wary of any agency who practices boiler room tactics, the oldest game in the book "you have to choose now or we're going to pass her on to another parent".